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I'm of the older generation and therefore my advice might seem a little old fashion, but it's good advice you can take to th bank. First of all, working for the same employer would be my first concern. If you tell this girl what you're feeling and she finds it to be the least offensive, she may go to your boss. This in turn may or may not cost you your job. At the very least, it could make working around this girl extremely uncomfortable and put your reputation at risk. Instead of putting your heart and reputation on the line, try inviting this girl to go to a social function with you, or ask her to lunch. After spending some time with her AWAY from the work place, you should be able to get a feel as to what she is thinking. You might "drop" the names of a favorite hangout or two frequented by other lesbians in the area. If she is familiar with them, there is a good chance she may be gay, or at least gay friendly. Since she has done nothing to make you question whether or not she might be gay except to smile at you and be cordial and friendly, (as anyone in the workplace is expected to do) you don't really have much to go on. After all, I am friendly and might smile at a male co-worker, but that certainly doesn't mean I want a relationship with them. If after seeing her outside the workplace, she does not respond by inviting you out, then I would forget about her as a possible relationship. Just enjoy a purely platonic friendship as a co-worker. If, however, she does indicate she has feelings for you, my advice is to move very slowly, and not be to quick to reveal your feelings, until you are absolutely sure they will be reciprocated, GOOD LUCK!

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Well.... You can't tell how deep a puddle is if you don't step in it (Personally,I always walk around it !). So, if you must admit your "guilt", always leave room to add an explanation if it doesn't work. Bare in mind: You can never tell which way the train went by looking at the tracks. However,unfortunately, there are two types of people: those who divide people into two types,and those who don't. What really matters is the name that you are able to impose upon the facts - not the facts themselves. Create a need and fill it.

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Ok... for me,I think what matters in life is neither what others think nor what they say.As for me what matters is being whom you are and finding real happiness in whatever you do.I believe that life itself is a race merely to be completed and what really matters isnt how you begin it but how you accomplish it.Being real is all what matters.We learn and grow from real life experiences but not from dreams.

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I'm of the older generation and therefore my advice might seem a little old fashion, but it's good advice you can take to th bank. First of all, working for the same employer would be my first concern. If you tell this girl what you're feeling and she finds it to be the least offensive, she may go to your boss. This in turn may or may not cost you your job. At the very least, it could make working around this girl extremely uncomfortable and put your reputation at risk. Instead of putting your heart and reputation on the line, try inviting this girl to go to a social function with you, or ask her to lunch. After spending some time with her AWAY from the work place, you should be able to get a feel as to what she is thinking. You might "drop" the names of a favorite hangout or two frequented by other lesbians in the area. If she is familiar with them, there is a good chance she may be gay, or at least gay friendly. Since she has done nothing to make you question whether or not she might be gay except to smile at you and be cordial and friendly, (as anyone in the workplace is expected to do) you don't really have much to go on. After all, I am friendly and might smile at a male co-worker, but that certainly doesn't mean I want a relationship with them. If after seeing her outside the workplace, she does not respond by inviting you out, then I would forget about her as a possible relationship. Just enjoy a purely platonic friendship as a co-worker. If, however, she does indicate she has feelings for you, my advice is to move very slowly, and not be to quick to reveal your feelings, until you are absolutely sure they will be reciprocated, GOOD LUCK!

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I'm of the older generation and therefore my advice might seem a little old fashion, but it's good advice you can take to th bank. First of all, working for the same employer would be my first concern. If you tell this girl what you're feeling and she finds it to be the least offensive, she may go to your boss. This in turn may or may not cost you your job. At the very least, it could make working around this girl extremely uncomfortable and put your reputation at risk. Instead of putting your heart and reputation on the line, try inviting this girl to go to a social function with you, or ask her to lunch. After spending some time with her AWAY from the work place, you should be able to get a feel as to what she is thinking. You might "drop" the names of a favorite hangout or two frequented by other lesbians in the area. If she is familiar with them, there is a good chance she may be gay, or at least gay friendly. Since she has done nothing to make you question whether or not she might be gay except to smile at you and be cordial and friendly, (as anyone in the workplace is expected to do) you don't really have much to go on. After all, I am friendly and might smile at a male co-worker, but that certainly doesn't mean I want a relationship with them. If after seeing her outside the workplace, she does not respond by inviting you out, then I would forget about her as a possible relationship. Just enjoy a purely platonic friendship as a co-worker. If, however, she does indicate she has feelings for you, my advice is to move very slowly, and not be to quick to reveal your feelings, until you are absolutely sure they will be reciprocated, GOOD LUCK!

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I'm of the older generation and therefore my advice might seem a little old fashion, but it's good advice you can take to th bank. First of all, working for the same employer would be my first concern. If you tell this girl what you're feeling and she finds it to be the least offensive, she may go to your boss. This in turn may or may not cost you your job. At the very least, it could make working around this girl extremely uncomfortable and put your reputation at risk. Instead of putting your heart and reputation on the line, try inviting this girl to go to a social function with you, or ask her to lunch. After spending some time with her AWAY from the work place, you should be able to get a feel as to what she is thinking. You might "drop" the names of a favorite hangout or two frequented by other lesbians in the area. If she is familiar with them, there is a good chance she may be gay, or at least gay friendly. Since she has done nothing to make you question whether or not she might be gay except to smile at you and be cordial and friendly, (as anyone in the workplace is expected to do) you don't really have much to go on. After all, I am friendly and might smile at a male co-worker, but that certainly doesn't mean I want a relationship with them. If after seeing her outside the workplace, she does not respond by inviting you out, then I would forget about her as a possible relationship. Just enjoy a purely platonic friendship as a co-worker. If, however, she does indicate she has feelings for you, my advice is to move very slowly, and not be to quick to reveal your feelings, until you are absolutely sure they will be reciprocated, GOOD LUCK!

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I'm of the older generation and therefore my advice might seem a little old fashion, but it's good advice you can take to th bank. First of all, working for the same employer would be my first concern. If you tell this girl what you're feeling and she finds it to be the least offensive, she may go to your boss. This in turn may or may not cost you your job. At the very least, it could make working around this girl extremely uncomfortable and put your reputation at risk. Instead of putting your heart and reputation on the line, try inviting this girl to go to a social function with you, or ask her to lunch. After spending some time with her AWAY from the work place, you should be able to get a feel as to what she is thinking. You might "drop" the names of a favorite hangout or two frequented by other lesbians in the area. If she is familiar with them, there is a good chance she may be gay, or at least gay friendly. Since she has done nothing to make you question whether or not she might be gay except to smile at you and be cordial and friendly, (as anyone in the workplace is expected to do) you don't really have much to go on. After all, I am friendly and might smile at a male co-worker, but that certainly doesn't mean I want a relationship with them. If after seeing her outside the workplace, she does not respond by inviting you out, then I would forget about her as a possible relationship. Just enjoy a purely platonic friendship as a co-worker. If, however, she does indicate she has feelings for you, my advice is to move very slowly, and not be to quick to reveal your feelings, until you are absolutely sure they will be reciprocated, GOOD LUCK!

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It is a private decision, depending on your personality, the make up of your family, the friends you have, where you work, etc........

There is no rush, it is ok if it takes you 30 years to come out, just do it at your own pace, in your own time.
If your family is open minded, lucky for you, you might want to start with them first, for it will ultimately be the most freeing feeling you will experience, but if they are not, than take your time, there is always a good moment for everything.

Work would be the last I would consider, because of the negative most workplaces have, coming out there being the last of your worries.

Friends would be good to start with, some loving siblings or cousins or whatever.

Whatever the order, there is no hurry, take your time, do not force the envelope, protect your feelings and make sure you are not going to be hurt in the process, because you are going to be honest, and honesty should never be painful!

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Coming out is the best thing to do. But first step is always tricky. In my country its an abomination. I hope someday things will be better for all lesbians.

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stop hiding, the more we hide the less likely we will be accepted in society.