there isn't any real way to answer your question. for instance, in my case my mom hates me as a lesbian but loves me as her daughter. she has flat out told me that if i have a relationship she better not ever hear anything about it. she won't talk to me or anyone else about it, she hasn't progressed since the day i told her, but the only thing that keeps me from crying about it is i can always think, 'it could be worse. she could have thrown me out, she could've have hated me, she could have killed me.' yeah, it's not so great in terms of moral support but my sister accepts me as a lesbian so i've decided that that's all i really need. i only need to have one person who accepts me at a time. really that's all that anyone needs so just ask yourself if you are serious enough about alexandra that you will be able to face your mother on this. even if she takes it badly she'll still love you as her daughter because you aren't any different from the person you were before you told her.