Are you just searching for the best deal? Should you pick door #1 or door #2? Sounds a bit shallow to me. What did you think marriage would be? Odds are that you are never going to find the person who is perfect for you 100% of the time. I was once just like you. I have a list of former loves. I didn't hesitate to jump into a different relationship if I thought the grass was a bit greener. Problem is, doing this only hurts those involved. Believe it or not, it hurts you the worst. You won't feel the effects right away. It will likely hit you when you are on the other side wondering wtf you did for your partner to stray from you. Infidelity hurts everyone. One day, you are going to realize that the relationships of the past weren't all that bad and instead of making progress towards better and better relationships, you've only managed to burn your bridges. Once that is done, things will NEVER be the same. You can never truly go back without some kind of scar. Take a long hard look at what you have right now. If you have a good woman, keep her. Keep the relationship Figure it out. Work it out. Listen to each other without judgment and grow together instead of apart. Considered trying to rekindle the physical relation with your wife Think back to how it was in the beginning. What was is that made the two of you magical? If you love her, and I mean truly love her, make it work. If you don't, then she deserves someone who does. Sorry for the lecture. I just saw myself in your words about 20 years ago.