I'm of the older generation and therefore my advice might seem a little old fashion, but it's good advice you can take to th bank. First of all, working for the same employer would be my first concern. If you tell this girl what you're feeling and she finds it to be the least offensive, she may go to your boss. This in turn may or may not cost you your job. At the very least, it could make working around this girl extremely uncomfortable and put your reputation at risk. Instead of putting your heart and reputation on the line, try inviting this girl to go to a social function with you, or ask her to lunch. After spending some time with her AWAY from the work place, you should be able to get a feel as to what she is thinking. You might "drop" the names of a favorite hangout or two frequented by other lesbians in the area. If she is familiar with them, there is a good chance she may be gay, or at least gay friendly. Since she has done nothing to make you question whether or not she might be gay except to smile at you and be cordial and friendly, (as anyone in the workplace is expected to do) you don't really have much to go on. After all, I am friendly and might smile at a male co-worker, but that certainly doesn't mean I want a relationship with them. If after seeing her outside the workplace, she does not respond by inviting you out, then I would forget about her as a possible relationship. Just enjoy a purely platonic friendship as a co-worker. If, however, she does indicate she has feelings for you, my advice is to move very slowly, and not be to quick to reveal your feelings, until you are absolutely sure they will be reciprocated, GOOD LUCK!
2. so...im your typical straight girl who now is unsure and happens to like her friend of nine years who is bisexual....i found it convenient to tell her only to find out that she only sees me as a friend. Should i continue with hopes or just let it go?report spam
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add answer posted by aNnIe on November 20, 2008
3. i'm in love with a girl, who only considers me a friend.i found out that she has known that i'm a les long ago. should I just stay friend with her? or what should I do in this situation?report spam
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add answer posted by koala90 on November 2, 2008
wow....your situation is very similar to mine with the exception that my friend is the labeled one and i am the one who ended up liking her....its pretty confusing....i dont know what to do either....
4. just lost my partner of 18 years. she passed away. had a heart atack . i am very lost without her. if any one has some advice , i could use some just now. don't have any les. friend to speak of.report spam
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add answer posted by uscaregiver on November 7, 2010
hi im so sorry to hear about you losing your partner. would you like a chat? if i can give any advice anytime and help then i will try my best. i think maybe your just need some time and try counselling as you can talk to someone about it. i hope things get easier for you in time.
5. I am a lesbian having trouble meeting girls to have relationships with. I have had two relationships in the past w/ girls- which both ended. But they were friends of mine. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to find a girl?report spam
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add answer posted by Rach1212 on January 8, 2010
6. I have been with my partner for 2 years and for the last 6 months I have felt like I have fallen out of love with her. I have tried to spice things up, bring the romance back, spend quality time together etc... but nothing feels any different.
I know this will absolutely break her heart but I dont know what else I can do??? She has done nothing wrong and there is no one else. report spam
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add answer posted by IheartPS3 on January 5, 2011
This may sound somewhat harsh at first but life is too short to be unhappy! Ask yourself this question: "Would I want my girlfriend to stay with me if she didn't love me?" Some of the best friendships are the result of an attempt but failed relationship. Maybe you both were meant to be the best of friends. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave. She deserves to have someone that will love her. By the way, so do you. Chances are, she will be just fine, eventually. The great part about all the crap we experience is that we gain something. It may take a bit for either of you to realize the positive side but you will. Both of you will. Best of luck!
7. Me and my friend have admited that we like eachother more then friends. Which is great as I love her so much but she says she wants to take things slow. We havent kissed yet or anything but I want to, but am scared that she will class that as too fast?? She has been in lesbian relationships before and I havent so I am totally clueless on when is right and when not :S HELP!!
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add answer posted by MissyTwilight on October 1, 2009
I don't know your situation but from the outside looking in it seems as though your friend may have just said that so as not to hurt your feelings. If she has been in a lesbian relationship before she probably isn't as scared as you are to initiate something. If you feel like you are in the right setting and the timing seems right then just try. If it is too fast for her then maybe you two should talk again. Sometimes it is better to just stay as friends and not cross that line, but that is a decision both of you have to make.
8. I have had an amazing relationship with my girlfriend for about a year..she recently told me that she doesn't think were gunna be longterm cause it's against her morals and gods will to be with a girl..she still calls me her girlfriend and basically nothing has changed..she makes statements sometimes about the future but ignores any real questions..am I wasting my timereport spam
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add answer posted by lucky23 on April 5, 2011
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